• Kate Cooley

Banging at the backdoor: A Beginner’s Guide to Preparing for Anal Play.

Updated: May 3

Banging at the backdoor: A Beginner’s Guide to Preparing for Anal Play.

We get it, you’re no sex noob.

You have played the field a time or two and are no stranger when it comes to first, second, third or fourth base. But, as satisfying as those home runs are, you are looking to try something new.

You have decided you are ready to experience a whole new type of orgasm and slide, or have them slide, right into fifth base.


Like it or not, you have to talk about it.

But Ugh... Butt stuff.

Why does the mere thought of bringing it up to our partner make us so uncomfortable? Seriously, what’s the big deal?

We stick penises everywhere- vaginas, hands, mouths... cleavage. Hell, some people even go for armpits and feet (no judgment, you do you, Boo). So, what is it that makes the whole backdoor lovin’ conversation just so damn awkward?

Oh, yea, that’s right.


But hey, nbd, shit happens (literally and everyone does it.) You ignore it, move on, and clean up afterwards. That’s not to say a little fecal matter will always be present, but definitely keep in mind, it is a possibility.


Okay, so you have gotten over the poop thing and you are ready to have the talk.

This is the important part, both parties involved need to be on the same page when it comes to going in through the backdoor.

With any kind of anal play, you have to communicate with your partner first.

Be clear on your limits, what you want to try and what you absolutely don’t want to try.

It may also be a good idea to develop a safe word. Together decide on a nonsexual word to use in the event things are not going as expected, you experience pain, or you just want to stop. To the both of you, this safe word will mean- cease all actions.

As long as you are with a partner you trust and you are clear on your expectations, getting through the talk will be easier than you think.


For starters, diet is important when preparing for anal play. The best thing to consider before eating on the day of is — what goes in, must come out. With that in mind, be sure to avoid anything overly heavy, greasy or spicy. The last thing you want is to feel bloated and uncomfortable or worse, develop an upset stomach on the day of. Ugh.

When it comes to getting things nice and clean back there, some people prefer to go for a pre-butt lovin’, anal douche. Now, this is not required by any means, it is just some people’s preference.

Preparing for anal is honestly as simple as making a trip to the bathroom to be sure your bowels are empty about an hour prior to play. Once you are sure you won’t need to go, simply shower as normal. Just be sure to give your booty a good ol’ rub down with your normal soap, and rinse with water.

If you do decide to go the anal douche route, you are going to want to give yourself a 2-hour window before play. This can be done standing in your shower w